Alex and I had a heart-to-heart a few days ago. It was intense for a bit there and I did the classic, “walk-away-when-we’re-in-the-middle-of-talking-and-start-furiously-cleaning-the-house-cuz-I’m-just-mad” thing. I really need to work on that.
The topic – our devotional life.
I blogged here about how challenging its been for me lately to consistently stay in the word. But it’s also something Alex and I really desire to have as a strong part of our marriage and family.
Through the course of our conversation we identified the biggest problem, which is DISTRACTION. We also talked about what those distractions are for each of us. For me the biggest ones right now are: TV, facebook/blogging, cleaning the house. None of these things are bad, but they are coming before my time with God each day. This is a problem. (I won’t share Alex’s but let’s just say the whole conversation started cuz he wanted to buy and xbox, a.k.a devilbox, even though we have TWO broken ones in our basement and an 11 week old baby!!)
Anyways, after figuring out the distractions keeping us from this quality time with God, we made a plan.
Getting married adds a whole new dynamic to our relationship with God. If you’re married or have been, you’ll know what I’m talking about. And if you’re not, hear me out and maybe it’ll help you one day.
Instead of just having to work on your relationship with God you now have a few other key relationships to add to the mix.
YOU – GOD
YOU – SPOUSE
SPOUSE – GOD
YOU – SPOUSE – GOD
Practically speaking, all of these relationships take time. You need time to talk to God, your spouse, and for all three of you to spend time together too! So how do we fit it all in? And still keep the house reasonably in order?
For us the plan is this:
Alex identified some time in his day where he can read his bible instead of doing other things. For him its in the morning before he goes to work.
I identified some time to set aside as well. For me this is during Cohen’s first nap of the day, whenever that may be.
And our time together will be before I go to bed. (Alex goes to bed later than me but always comes to say goodnight and pray with me, so this is a natural time to also do some devotions).
It’s all well and good to say we want to spend more time in the word, in worship, soaking in God’s presence but the reality is, if we don’t make a plan it won’t happen.
And the truth is, often a plan isn’t enough either. Alex and I have had this conversation many times before and nothing really changed or came of it.
But this time we did something different – and it worked.
After talking, and planning, and trying to figure it all out, we took some time to commit our plans to the Lord and ask for the Holy Spirit to help us.
“Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.” Proverbs 16:3
“‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty.” Zechariah 4:16
All that being said, Cohen is sleeping and I have some reading to do!
When do you make time for devotions in your day? I’d love to hear your thoughts/feedback/comments.